Human are social animals, nobody can live out of the community and without of the interpersonal relationship. But, we are not a diplomat. Many times, we don’t know how to deal with the others.
Are there useful skills in interpersonal?
Sometimes a little change can broaden the interpersonal relationship.
Maybe, The following 21 rules can help you.
1, people often do not remember what you said, but remember what you make them feel.
So, do not be too concerned about the social content of their words, but more concerned about the atmosphere and the other side of the dialogue. In turn, you will find that you do not remember the people you like specifically said, but will remember you and their feelings in the process of communication, is not it?
2, when you mention someone else, try to call their names as much as possible.
People like their name to be mentioned, when you called their names, they will return you more trust and love.
3, people tend to remember what happened first and the last.
In general, everyone can’t remember what happened in the middle. So, if you want to introduce yourself, it is best to do the first or last one. It is the same in interview.
4, you ask someone a question, but they didn’t tell you the all.
Just wait, keep your attention, and eventually they will speak out.
5, Pretend to be strong, until you are really strong. Confidence is more important than ability.
Do not be frightened by anyone, life is hard, we need act.
6, Keep your hands warm, when you shake hands with others. That will immediately make the others have a favorable Impression to you.
If your hands are easy to sweat or cold, try to dry it first.
7, Get a foot in the door.
Foot-in-the-door (FITD) technique is a compliance tactic that involves getting a person to agree to a large request by first setting them up by having that person agree to a modest request.
8, Stand straight.
Keep your head up. Do not think that is out of date. You feel so good, and the people around you will feel your confidence.
9, Do not say "I think", unless it is really necessary.
These words will make you lose your confidence,
10, Pay for the first meal.
11, Egotism for the big child.
When you meet someone for the first time, give them your full attention. This means that you think he is special!
12. Control your act habits
The impatient little trick will let the audience feel that you are kidding, such as pulling collar, touch neck, eyes erratic.
13. Cooperate with the other's emotions
Before the mouth, According to the other’s voice to judge his emotional state. If you want others to listen to your ideas, you must first match their emotions. The focus of chat is not on specific facts or wording, but in its musicality and its melody.
14. Stop nagging
15. Do not rush to say "I think so!"
When you find something in common with someone, the slower you say it out, the greater the surprise.
Incidentally: Do not wait too long, it will make you look as you are showing off.
16. Using "us"
Even if you just know this person, you can also build a close feeling with using “us”.
17. The Benjamin Franklin effect.
A person who has performed a favor for someone is more likely to do another favor for that person than they would be if they had received a favor from that person.
18. The spirit of Hans.
Pay attention to the other’s reaction. Adjust your behavior according to his reaction.
19. Trying to praise others
If the stranger who talks to you may play a pivotal role in the future of your personal or career, you have to find a very clear and unique temperament from him. When the conversation is coming to an end, look at his eyes. say his name, and then say out the words of praise, the other must be full of joy.
20. Give out choose instead of ask.
21. When we are in conflict with each other:
A. Do not raise your voice.
B. When he wants to argue with you, please keep slience.
C. When you realize that you are wrong, please immediately recognize and point out that.
D. If your are correct, just say “thank you”, that’s all.
E. Please do not bring any personal feelings into the discussion.
That’s excellent quality and personality make us become friends, but not the sameness in viewpoints.
Above all, sincere is the most important thing in intercourses. Skills just can give us a little help, and you can practice it.