10 Ways to Be a Positive Role Model
by Teresa McEntire | More from this Blogger
11 Aug 2006 11:01 AM
In my blog "Who is your Child's Role Model" I discuss the
survey results that show that 50% of teenagers view a relative as a role model. Which means that parents are often their own child's role models. So as a parent; it is important that you are a
good role model for your child. Here are ten ways that you can be a positive role model for your child.
1. Share your values. Let your child know what your stand is
on things like drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and premarital sex. Having a value system like religion is also important. A study published in the American Journal of Health Promotion found that religious activity and positive role models had the greatest impact on teens not using tobacco.
2. Demonstrate self-esteem. If you are not confident and happy
with yourself your children will probably feel the same way about themselves. Don't make negative remarks about yourself. It is also important that you express happiness with your body
image as Catherine Ipcizade talked about in a recent blog. If you
do diet, do it for health reasons, not because you want to look thin.
3. Be independent. Don't always be worried about having the
latest and greatest. Show your child by example that you don't have to follow the fads to be happy. Possessions do not determine the value of a person.
4. Use medications carefully. Prescription drug abuse among
teens is on the rise. According to the FDA it is rising at a rate of 25% a year since 2001. As a parent;it is important that you use
medications carefully and responsibly. Do not allow yourself to rely on drugs. Show your child that medication should only be used when necessary and prescribed by a doctor.
5. Drink responsibly. If you do drink alcohol, drink responsibly. Never drink and drive. Keep alcohol locked up. Limit the amount of alcohol that you drink. Never allow or encourage your teenager to drink.
6. Deal with stress. Show your child positive ways to deal with stress. Everyone has stressful events in their life. It is how you deal with the stress that makes a difference. If you turn to drugs, alcohol, or become violent, your child will too. Instead, use
positive ways to deal with stress like exercise, a hot bath, reading a good book, or doing something else that you enjoy. 7. Share your successes and failures. When you are successful,
share the experience with your child. Explain what you did to obtain your success. It is also important to let your child know that things don't always turn out the way that you want them too. Failing at something does not make you a bad person. You can always try again.
8. Show your love. Let your children know that you love them
unconditionally. You may not always be happy with their behavior but you still love them. Even if your teenagers express disgust at your attempts to show affection they secretly desire it. 9. Discuss the media. Talk to your children about how the
media portrays alcohol, tobacco, drugs, and sex. Discuss with your children how the media portrays the activities as fun and exciting but fails to show the consequences. They don't show the accident or throwing up after a night of drinking. The teenage girl forced to drop out of school because she is pregnant, or the boy who dies from a drug overdose. It is also important to discuss the media's portrayal of beauty. Only 55 percent of teenage girls surveyed by the Gillette Company believed that
magazines "promote unrealistic images" of women. Consequently 52 percent felt that "physical appearance was very important to feeling good about themselves." 10. Be involved. The National PTA Society encourages parents to be involved in their children's school and activities. As you get involved in your children's education you are showing them that you value education.
Think You're FAT? You Could Be Hurting Your Kids
by Catherine Ipcizade | More from this Blogger
10 JUL 2006 09:31 AM
Are you guilty of this? Do you step on the scale each morning and mutter an incoherent statement, something along the lines of how you really really need to lose weight
? Or maybe you complain while you're getting dressed, that your clothes are too tight. Maybe you talk too much about needing to exercise and lose weight. Maybe you starve yourself or become cranky often because of some new diet.
Do you have kids? Then let me tell you-they notice.
They may not say it or vocalize it so you can hear it, but slowly, it can start to affect their self-esteem as well. Think about it. You're their mom, their dad, their parent. You are the center of their world, especially when they are small. As they grow, even if they don't admit it, you are still a great influence on your children. And that includes your body image.
Most people aren't happy with their bodies. It's a cultural phenomenon. Women in this country strive for model thinness. And even those who don't can't help but have every form of media plastered in their faces telling them they SHOULD strive for it. The problem is, our insecurities quickly leak onto our children. I'm guilty myself. Each morning I hop on the scale. I now remain silent or yell "yay!" when my children
are in the room. Trust me, that's not always easy. My kids want to get on the scale too. So every day they hop on, as a game, and every day I say the same thing..."perfect!" They like the scale now. They think it's funny and they want to see their weight increase. I've told them they are perfect. And if the numbers go up they equate it to strong muscles and lots of vegetables. Still, I've made mistakes. I've started protein diets and vocalized it enough that my son once said to me he didn't want to eat "protein."