According to our text book, one of the sociologist, Chodorow argues that learning to feel male or female derives from the infant’s attachment to its parents form an early age. Personally, I deem that Chodorow’s theory is more realistic
and more attached to the society’s nature, namely, the actual world.
Compared with Freud, Chowdorow attaches more importance to the motherhood part rather than the paternal part in child-rearing, as a counterpart to her feminism theory. She characterized the female and male psyches especially in terms of an unconscious internal world and a conscious and conscious sense of self. And she pointed out that how this internal world and sense of self are formed developmentally mainly lied in the unconscious communications between mother and child.
It is well acknowledged that mother is the most unique and prominent person we contact with during our early age. She is the first person we start to observe and emulate, varying from gestures to language. Generally speaking, mother, more specifically maternity, has exerted its function to construct the consciousness through a subtly unconscious way. However, father, who may not participate in the early child-rearing as much as mother, is always more prone to be the deconstruction maker. Contradiction is the pivotal momentum in the progress of almost everything, hence this conflict between parents can account for the children’s development in their future life.
It is well documented that men have a great preoccupation with masculinity and fear of being unmasculine, which is culturally and politically elaborated and expressed in the worldwide area, in contrast to women’s lesser preoccupation with basic femininity. Consequently, during the first few years after our birth, we absorb our mother’s love and start to conceive maternal fantasies; before long we start to emulate her behaviors and become habituated to her thinking pattern, thence what we have assimilated and accumulated would be used to construct our consciousness;generalized conception such as the life outlook, world
outlook and value outlook. Then the father debuts. As boys are who determined to inherit the masculinity, girls get preserved in the cradle of motherhood. Boys are commanded by their fathers to be a man, not a sissy quirk. In order to achieve this goal, a lot of behaviors coming into being under the protection of motherhood confronted with a great destruction. Once the conception of masculinity is deeply rooted in a boy’s consciousness, he would imperceptibly be
shaped and cultivated. New personality and attitude are generated. Meanwhile, he would, without a doubt, to embark on things through the way his father has conveyed to him, such as to preserve the masculinity among the posterity.
To summarize what I have discussed above, I would like to use
“contradiction”(construction and deconstruction) and “circulation” to represent
my opinion. Mother firstly creates and influences the construction of child’s
consciousness; whence it comes of a certain age, father partitions them into 2
group and mainly load the pressure on the boy, aiming to carry on the masculinity, in which process Oedipus complex may be likely to occur. This is contradiction, while the circulation can be well elaborated as soon as the boy has grown up and in his turn to press the pressure on his male posterity.