Sensitive parent, secure child

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Sensitive parent, secure child

Sensitive parent, secure child

    Research has now shown conclusively that if parents meet children’s needs sensitively in infancy, they are much more likely to grow up to be contented, sociable and self-confident. A child who has gained confidence in his parents’ care for him,

    and goes to them readily when he needs affection or help, is said to be ‘securely attached’ to them. Having had positive experiences with their parents, such children learn to have similar confidence in other suitable people who may become ‘attachment figures’, e.g. grandparents, or intimate partners in adulthood. This process is conceived of as creating a conscious or subconscious ‘representational model’ of ‘attachment figures’, i.e., an habitual pattern of emotions which determine how one

    thinks about or relates to the possibility of attachment to different people, depending on how one perceives their characteristics as individuals. These representational models vary from being mostly positive in some people to mostly negative in others, depending on how they have been treated at critical times.

    Researchers believe that a person who has formed a secure attachment to his parent

    is likely to possess a representational model of attachment figure(s) as being available, responsive, and helpful, and a complementary model of himself as at least a potentially lovable and valuable person . . . influenced by those models he is likely to have been able to make further loving and trusting relationships 61 during his . . . adult life.

    Parental love satisfies rather than spoils the child, and fosters responsibility to others. There is abundant evidence that babies whose parents respond sensitively to their expressed needs, especially by holding or carrying the baby, are more content and cry less. Although babies who are carried more are also fed more frequently, they feed for no longer in total, and so there is no evidence that greater parental responsiveness 62 makes babies [Delete more] greedy.

    The key breakthrough in understanding how differences in parental treatment influence children’s relationships with parents and other attachment figures was made by Mary Ainsworth. She built on the pioneering work of John Bowlby to develop the ‘Strange Situation’. This procedure involves an infant aged 12 to 18 months twice

    being separated from his parent for up to three minutes. If he becomes distressed during either separation he is immediately reunited with the parent. More than one hundred infants were videoed in the study in which the Strange Situation procedure was first tested. The videos were studied in minute detail, and three characteristic types of infant response were identified. For the sake [delete purpose] of clarity I will describe the findings with reference to mothers, though the procedure has been found to be equally valid for fathers. Infants classified as avoidant tend not to be upset when their mother leaves the room, and avoid interacting with her when she returns. Infants classified as ambivalent are usually very upset when their mother leaves the room, but waver between wanting contact and angrily resisting contact with her when she returns. Infants classified as secure actively seek contact with and are readily 63 comforted by their mother when she returns.

    Since Ainsworth’s pathbreaking work there have now been many more studies

    which carried out frequent observations of infants and mothers at home during their first year (and a few with fathers), before they were assessed in the Strange Situation. These show that babies whose parent had the sensitivity to perceive their baby’s

    communications accurately, and respond in a way which met the baby’s needs, with affection when appropriate, were more likely to be assessed in the Strange Situation as securely attached to that parent. Babies whose parent was unresponsive at home were more likely to be assessed as ambivalent towards the parent. Babies whose parent was relatively unresponsive at home, but also behaved intrusively towards the baby, were more likely to be assessed as avoidant towards the parent [delete mother]. The psychologists who assessed the Strange Situation videos were told nothing of the parenting quality as observed in the home, so [delete in order that] they would have no preconceptions. Ainsworth found that infants later classified at twelve months old as avoidant in the Strange Situation responded negatively to being put down by their mother at home both in the first and fourth quarter of their first year. Therefore their avoidant response in the Strange Stuation was not a sign of greater maturity, 64independence, or even-temperedness.


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