Former South African President Mandela Breaks Taboo To Announce
Last-Surviving Son Died of AIDS-Related Causes
In January 2005, former South African President Nelson Mandela announced that his oldest son had died of AIDS-related causes. Makgatho Mandela was 54 and his father’s only surviving son.
“I announce that my son has died of AIDS,” Mandela said. “Let us give publicity to HIV/AIDS and not hide it, because the only way to make it appear like a normal illness, like TB, like cancer, is always to come out and say somebody has died because of HIV/AIDS, and people will stop regarding it as something extraordinary.”
In publicly disclosing the cause of his son’s death, Mandela said that talking about HIV/AIDS is the only way to for people to stop “regarding it as extraordinary and for
which people will go to hell and not to heaven. I hope that as time goes on, we realize that it is important for us to talk openly about people who die of AIDS.”
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In South Africa, Stigma Magnifies Pain of AIDS
Many Still See Disease as Fatal, Shameful
By Craig Timberg
Washington Post Foreign Service
Friday, January 14, 2005; Page A14
SOWETO, South Africa – The very moment he learned he had contracted HIV,
Sibusiso Mlangeni said he got his first taste of the stigma that comes with it. "You've been messing around," the nurse at the AIDS clinic scolded him. "You are HIV-positive."
The words delivered a wallop of shock and shame for Mlangeni, 28, who had a steady girlfriend and hardly considered himself promiscuous. But the nurse's comment, made one year ago, hinted at what lay ahead as news of the diagnosis spread.
His father, a retired security guard who had badgered Mlangeni about losing too much weight, declared, "You are going to die." His sister, a nurse, asked Mlangeni not to stand near her. Soon he was given his own set of dishes, a crude but common reaction from families under the false impression that HIV can spread through casual contact.
"I had my own special plate," said Mlangeni, a volunteer at a hospice in this sprawling township outside Johannesburg. His bright, ready smile tightened into a grimace as he recalled his feelings of rejection. "I had my own special cup. I had my own special blanket, everything."
Last week, in announcing that his eldest son had died of complications of AIDS, Nelson Mandela urged South Africans to stop treating the disease as a sickness for which "people will go to hell and not to heaven." The announcement by Mandela, the former president and a national icon, was a highly public attempt to fight the
stigma that has accompanied AIDS across South Africa, hampering both testing and timely treatment of the disease, even as it has become the country's top killer, with 1,000 people a day dying from its ravages, according to the United Nations.
The message, like appeals made by other regional leaders in the past few years, was greeted with relief by people suffering from the affliction. Yet many interviewed in recent days said they were still treated as contaminated sinners by neighbors, friends and their own families. Some are ordered to use separate toilets or to wash outside. Others are banished.
A study of 144 HIV patients at two Johannesburg hospitals found that 38 percent had not told a single family member that they had HIV, and 21 percent had not told their sexual partners. One in 10 said diagnosis of the disease was followed by suicidal thoughts. A small number of women reported that their partners beat them after learning of the presence of the infection.
Such violent reactions remain rare, although an AIDS activist was killed outside Cape Town in 2003 after she told a group of men who had gang-raped her that she had HIV. Another woman with AIDS was stoned to death in a township near Durban in 1998. Simple shunning is far more common and deeply hurtful, say those with the virus. The reaction compounds feelings of terror and self-loathing that can accompany the diagnosis of a disease that many here believe, incorrectly, to be fatal in all cases and contracted exclusively through promiscuous sex.
Although heterosexual contact is the primary means of transmission throughout Africa, researchers say that HIV infection has now reached far beyond those who have multiple sex partners. In South Africa, according to U.N. estimates, one of every five people between 15 and 49 is infected with HIV.
Among the most vulnerable, researchers said, are women with only one sexual partner – their husbands – who either have the virus when they marry or acquire it later through an extramarital affair. For these wives to insist on the use of condoms would mean forgoing pregnancy, the cornerstone of marriage according to most African traditions.
Thobi Segabi, a physician at Soweto Hospice, recalled a woman last year who spent four weeks there in increasing misery. Segabi asked whether something was troubling her and learned that years earlier the woman had left her husband abruptly after being told she had HIV. The husband, who had never been told, visited the hospice soon after and spoke with his wife for the first time about her illness. The woman died the next day.
"She had this heavy load that she hadn't released," Segabi recalled. "She was blaming herself."
As AIDS activists try to make the issue more visible and less shameful, T-shirts declaring "HIV Positive" have become a common sight throughout South Africa. Yet physicians, researchers and AIDS activists say the disease remains little understood even after years of public education campaigns.
Among families, an HIV infection is often kept secret. South Africa's newspapers are filled with death notices that refer euphemistically to a "prolonged illness." Pneumonia or tuberculosis, rather than AIDS, is often listed as the cause of death,
which, while technically accurate, neglects the overriding point: that HIV led to the lung ailment.
Contrary to popular belief here, AIDS is not necessarily fatal. A small but growing trickle of antiretroviral drugs is reaching those with AIDS in South Africa, allowing dramatically prolonged lives for the few people with access to the medicine. And the government, after years of resistance, is now offering the drugs at some public health clinics.
Yet most of the estimated 5 million South Africans infected with HIV have never even been tested for the virus. Many of those who die of AIDS complications are unfamiliar with the illness and do not appear at hospitals until they are too sick to gain much benefit from potentially life-prolonging drugs, physicians say.
And even those knowledgeable about HIV can find it difficult to tell others. Harry Nyathela, 30, an AIDS activist in Soweto, told a friend soon after the disease was diagnosed in him in 1998. The friend quickly accepted the news but requested that his wife not be told, fearing that she would ban Nyathela from the house.
At his family home, Nyathela had to buy his own wash basin. One relative threw out a loaf of bread he had touched. Friends asked him to take home cups after he had used them.
"They did this because they didn't understand," Nyathela said.
For Mlangeni, the rejection he encountered at his father's house grew so painful that he moved out. He and his father had never had an affectionate relationship, Mlangeni said, but he was comfortable in the large, lavish brick home they had shared for 22 years after his parents broke up.
The HIV test changed that. His father virtually stopped speaking to him and locked the outer gate, saying he should no longer visit friends. After three weeks, Mlangeni moved into his mother's one-room shack, because she accepted his sickness unconditionally.
Yet even in new surroundings, Mlangeni was tormented with thoughts of death and regret.
"The minute you sit down, you keep on blaming yourself," he said. "You've got to focus on the plans you had before. . . . You must not lose hope.
Mlangeni is now living with his girlfriend and has found a useful role tending to the hospice building and garden. With the help of sympathetic relatives and religious faith, he has come to accept that he has HIV. When he gets sicker, he said, he hopes to begin taking antiretrovirals.
His relationship with his father, however, appears permanently fractured. After church one day this month, Mlangeni stopped by his old house. His father, outside working in the yard, gave him a perfunctory greeting. Mlangeni went inside for a glass of water. When he came back out, his father had disappeared.
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